THE LAWS OF LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS
LAW OF COMMITMENT:
Critical to the long-term success of any relationship is the level of commitment. Relationships with conditions attached are usually short-lived.
LAW OF VALUE:
Love is not blind. You are attracted to people who have qualities you value.
LAW OF COMPATIBILITY:
People are compatible with each other only when they share the same values, attitudes, ambitions and beliefs.
LAW OF COMMUNICATIONS:
Since good communication is essential to good relationships, bear in mind that men and women communicate differently. Men are direct, women indirect.
LAW OF ATTENTION:
You pay attention to what you most love and value. Attentive listening builds trust, the foundation of a loving relationship.
LAW OF SELF-ESTEEM:
You tend to be happiest with someone who makes you feel good about yourself. In addition, raising the self-esteem of another makes you like yourself more.
LAW OF INDIRECT EFFORT:
You get more out of relationships indirectly than directly. The fastest way to impress others is not to act impressively, but to be impressed by them.
LAW OF REVERSE EFFORT:
Trying hard in relationships tends not to work. Relationships work best when you don't try at all.
LAW OF CONTROL:
Relationships are happy when there is a mutual sense of control. Too much control in one person's hands, or none at all, leads to unhappiness.
LAW OF IDENTIFICATION:
Only by not identifying with your relationship --- by detaching and viewing it at an arm's length --- can you enjoy it fully and act effectively within it.
LAW OF FORGIVENESS:
You are mature and healthy to the degree that you can freely forgive. Inability to forgive leads to guilt, resentment, anger and unhappiness with others.
LAW OF REALITY:
Don't try to change others or expect them to change. Be real and deal with people as they are. Unconditional acceptance of others is the key to happy relationships.
Critical to the long-term success of any relationship is the level of commitment. Relationships with conditions attached are usually short-lived.
LAW OF VALUE:
Love is not blind. You are attracted to people who have qualities you value.
LAW OF COMPATIBILITY:
People are compatible with each other only when they share the same values, attitudes, ambitions and beliefs.
LAW OF COMMUNICATIONS:
Since good communication is essential to good relationships, bear in mind that men and women communicate differently. Men are direct, women indirect.
LAW OF ATTENTION:
You pay attention to what you most love and value. Attentive listening builds trust, the foundation of a loving relationship.
LAW OF SELF-ESTEEM:
You tend to be happiest with someone who makes you feel good about yourself. In addition, raising the self-esteem of another makes you like yourself more.
LAW OF INDIRECT EFFORT:
You get more out of relationships indirectly than directly. The fastest way to impress others is not to act impressively, but to be impressed by them.
LAW OF REVERSE EFFORT:
Trying hard in relationships tends not to work. Relationships work best when you don't try at all.
LAW OF CONTROL:
Relationships are happy when there is a mutual sense of control. Too much control in one person's hands, or none at all, leads to unhappiness.
LAW OF IDENTIFICATION:
Only by not identifying with your relationship --- by detaching and viewing it at an arm's length --- can you enjoy it fully and act effectively within it.
LAW OF FORGIVENESS:
You are mature and healthy to the degree that you can freely forgive. Inability to forgive leads to guilt, resentment, anger and unhappiness with others.
LAW OF REALITY:
Don't try to change others or expect them to change. Be real and deal with people as they are. Unconditional acceptance of others is the key to happy relationships.